What exactly is feminine energy, and how can you embrace it more in your life?
Living in a masculine-dominated society can make it difficult for us, women and men, to connect with our feminine energy. But the divine feminine is rising, and it is very needed to bring our world back to balance.
To truly understand feminine energy, you need to look inward and explore what it means for you individually. Embracing your feminine energy is knowing who you are, following your deep-rooted intuition, and not holding back.
What is feminine energy?
In its essence, feminine energy is love. The feminine is the mother – the nurturer, giver, and bearer of life who loves unconditionally and wholeheartedly.
The feminine energy is soft, nurturing, and grounded, yet it’s dynamic, flowing, and always moving — it does not follow the rules other than the heart’s guidance. It is very mystical and can’t be controlled or contained.
To radiate your feminine energy means you embrace what is spontaneous, joyful, and creative. Go with the flow of life and let your intuition, rather than your mind, guide you.
When a woman fully embodies the divine feminine power, she follows her heart. She releases her full potential and stands in her full power. She knows she’s a divine being, a goddess and fully connected to her womb & heart space.
“She unleashed her inner goddess and became the woman her soul knew she could be.” ― Michelle Schafer
A woman who is aligned to her divine feminine is honoring the different seasons of her moon cycle, living connected with Pachamama and in harmony with nature.
How is feminine energy different from masculine energy?
Whereas feminine energy is flowing, dynamic, and not bound by rules, masculine energy is commonly seen as the opposite of feminine energy.
Masculine energy is about doing and being action-oriented. It’s stable and more predictable. The masculine energy likes to create structure and rules – there’s more predictability and rigidness.
One analogy that I love to explain the feminine and masculine is the water and the glass.
The water is the feminine energy. It loves to flow, follow its intuition, and move freely. But without the glass, the masculine energy, the water would just splash and disappear. Therefore, the water needs the glass, the masculine container that gives it structure and stability.
Within this container, the feminine energy can be fully expressed and held by the masculine energy. Both energies need each other and are not in competition with each other. Then what would be a glass without water?
Understanding that feminine and masculine energy complement each other is a central key when embracing your feminine energy.
We don’t want to erase masculine energy or completely deny its existence within us. Only by bringing both energies into a sacred union can we become whole.
Every human has feminine and masculine energy
One crucial point that is often misunderstood is that feminine energy is not only present in women. It is not equal to female stereotypes that unfortunately exist in our society.
Each of us carries two energies inside: masculine and feminine. These energies are not determined by gender.
The term feminine and masculine energy can be provoking for some people, so we could also label it yin or yang, ida and pingala, or shakti and shiva. Various terms from different teachings explain the forces of those energies.
Coming from the yogic tradition, ida is the left, the lunar (moon) nadi, representing intuitive qualities. Whereas pingala, the right, the solar (sun) nadi, is more active and analytical. Only when both nadi are in balance can we live a life in harmony, peace and health.
If we want to be balanced, thriving, and whole people, we need a healthy combination of the two. The feminine energy shouldn’t have to compete with the masculine energy; both energies should be harnessed in every individual.
“The union of feminine and masculine energies within the individual is the basis of all creation.” — Shakti Gawain
9 ways to embrace your feminine energy
There are many different ways to embrace your feminine energy, and it is all about finding out what works for you. There is not one right way because everyone creates their own definition and practices to connect with the divine feminine within us.
Here are 9 inspirations to help you embrace your feminine energy:
Honor your cycle
I don’t know about you, but I almost hated getting my period for a long time. Why did we, as women, have to ‘suffer’ so much? It was a big inconvenience for me, and I was totally disconnected from the wonder and power that lay within our menstruation.
Thanks to our body and menstruation, we create new life and are able to birth it on this planet. Also, our menstrual blood is immensely powerful and has unique healing properties. Shifting your mindset and honoring your cycle as the miracle it is, is the first step to embracing your divine feminine.
Connect with your yoni & womb space
The next step to tap into your feminine energy is to connect with your yoni and womb space. Your womb space is the center of your shakti, the feminine energy. It is where all the magic happens when we receive and birth new life onto this planet.
Wondering how you can connect with your yoni and womb space? How about a yoni massage? Maybe you feel inspired to use yoni eggs? Or, if you’re not really into tantra practices, you can start with some womb yoga. There are endless ways to connect you deeper with your shakti energy.
Nurture your body & yourself
Take the time to practice self-care, self-love, and self-worth. Show compassion towards yourself. Knowing your worth, allowing yourself time and space to do things you enjoy, and taking the time for yourself is crucial.
Make a list of things that make you feel good — whether that’s taking a long hot bath, practicing yoga, getting a massage, or just having a glass of wine — and make time for these things throughout the week.
Wear a skirt or dress
Leggings are great, and I absolutely love my yoga pants. But sometimes, wearing a dress or skirt can do the trick if you want to embrace your feminine side. Especially on Fridays, Venus day, it can be a great opportunity to pop on your favorite dress.
Another benefit of wearing a dress or skirt is that your yoni can breathe better, and you can increase the flow of shakti energy and enhance your connection with Pachamama.
Your definition of femininity is your own, so find your expression and enjoy it. You make the rules.
Unleash your creativity
The feminine is a creative force; no matter what you believe, you’re a creative being. So express yourself creatively and don’t overthink it, just follow what you naturally feel.
This can be writing, dancing, painting, crafting, music, cooking, or any other DIY project. Express yourself through creative means and see what feels liberating to you. And know, it doesn’t have to be perfect or productive in any way. Allow yourself some unstructured time and see where it takes you.
Join a women’s circle
Spend time with like-minded women who support, celebrate and empower you. Simply taking time out for yourself allows you to tap into that inner voice and really listen to your needs. It allows you to be open and vulnerable and know you’re not alone on this journey.
In a circle of women, we celebrate the divine feminine, tap into its infinite wisdom and power and celebrate being a woman. Through different practices and rituals during the circle, we strengthen our connection with the feminine energy and mother earth.
Connect with your soul
Get in touch with your deeper self and inner voice through reflection and meditation. Take a few minutes each day to stop and really tune in to listen to what’s going on inside of you.
Another powerful way to connect to your inner voice and give her a place to be seen and heard is through journaling. This can be guided with specific journal prompts, or just grab your notebook and let the words flow freely.
Check out Blissful Mornings, my free 5-day journey to more joy where we integrate meditation, journaling and dancing to deepen our spirituality.
Ecstatic dance
One of my favorite embodiment practice of the divine feminine is ecstatic dance. Do you wonder why ecstatic dance? Because there are no rules, no choreography, just a free flow of energy and movement.
It doesn’t necessarily have to be ecstatic dance – every form of free dance can help you to embrace your feminine side. Just turn on your favorite song and let your intuition move your body in whatever form it wants to be moved. Close your eyes, tune inwards and connect deeply with your soul.
Slow down
Being in your feminine energy means taking time as it comes and feeling into situations. It’s about trusting your intuition and allowing time and space for life to unfold. Get comfortable with taking breaks, slowing down, resting, taking a nap, and having spare time.
As women, we are not meant to be on the run all the time. Especially during our menstruation, it is time to slow down and honor the different phases of our cycle.
The power of connecting with your feminine energy
Womanhood is a beautiful experience that should be celebrated and cherished. Even though it’s easy to lose touch with your feminine side, it’s a necessary aspect of who you are.
Unfortunately, our modern society often pushes us into our masculine energy, which is very logical and goal-oriented. But to live a soulful and wholehearted life, we need to balance both qualities: The emotional and intuitive, as well as the mind-based and actionable.
By tapping into the power of your feminine energy, you can create an inner balance that will deliberate you to be your authentic self.
You will radiate invincible energy and be able to attract what your soul desires. You will remember your inherent worth and that you are a goddess, a divine being of infinite wisdom. And be able to fully express yourself and stand in your full power.
If you’re ready to connect deeper with the divine feminine and embrace your feminine energy, join me in my upcoming online women’s circle and experience the power of sacred sisterhood.
Disclaimer: This article is mainly written for women and how to embrace feminine energy as a woman. But, and this is a very big but, feminine energy is an energy that is present in each human being. So if you identify as a man, you can also embrace your feminine energy. But some of the ways mentioned in the article may not apply to you (sorry!).
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The Skirt
Opps!! please accept my apologises, you disturbed me contemplating on a little thought experiment, you are welcome to stay, but please forgive me if you hear me talking to myself.
I am asking myself why I have taken to wearing a skirt
I know it’s quite intuitive to know that skirts have been worn by both male and female alike since prehistoric times as the simplest way to cover the lower body. But in this day and age, it seems to have been hijacked by the ladies and is just considered a female garment. But hoorah skirts are still worn by both men and women from many cultures, such as the lungi, lehenga, kanga and sarong in South and Southeast Asia and of course not forgetting the kilt worn in Scotland and Ireland.
So why!! Why does a dude such as me living in western society, want to wear a skirt. Hmm let’s think, I suppose this where it all starts to get a bit complicated. Right here goes, in this world we are who we are, there is also my spiritual persuasion to consider, plus my brush with cancer and of course for the shear hell of it. Hmm all contributing factors.
I seem to recollect the old saying “a leopard never changes its spots” for some random reason. Anyway, going back to the why. When I look around this little world of ours, I can’t help noticing that we are many and varied, with billions of souls on this planet, everyone different, no one size fits all. The moment we arrive on this mortal coil the die is cast. So, I wonder if like everyone else when we undertake a little thought experiment and start talking to ourselves. Do we then start to reveal all the desires hidden in the recesses of the mind. One thing though, my contempt for social pigeon holing finally gotten the better of me, to the point that, I will be who I am. So “a leopard never changes its spots” may not have been that random.
I suppose I must consider my spiritual persuasion. This has been a bubbling along in the background for years now in one way or another. Embracing nonduality seems to make the most sense having a corroboration with the weird and wonderful world of modern physics. I suppose Shakespeare was right when he said, “all the world is a stage”. Just musing over the opening lines of the poem
And all the men and women merely players;
They have their exits and their entrances;
And one man in his time plays many parts,
Thinking about my brush with cancer. What a thought, it truly turns life on its head. I don’t really want to dwell too much, other than that it does make one consider things in a completely different way. Life is only a very short trip. So, should I really care what people think me? No not really, the caveat being, with compassion. Oh, I don’t know this is making my headache, but I suppose I now realise what matters and what doesn’t matter.
Phew let’s experiment with something a bit lighter. Do I wear a skirt as a dare, did I win my bet, the mischievousness of it all, or is it just a feel-good factor for going against the norm. I suppose this still doesn’t answer the question of why I choose to wear a skirt.
Oh dear, I am thinking deep again, and hope you are not getting weary with my musings. Still can’t quite understand why I may want to wear a skirt. But then again is it a metaphorical skirt, a skirt that everyone has to wear, could be. Peer pressure over the years preventing self-expression. I may even take up writing as means of escape and finally to be able to express myself.
Again, I ask myself why do! I want to wear a skirt, definitely not to shock or to offend I am not that kind of person. You know what this little thought experiment may beginning to bear fruit. I now realise that I just actually enjoy the experience of wearing a skirt. Is this a valid reason.
So, once and for all I pose the question to myself why do! I want to wear a skirt. Let me think, it’s not easy. I really can’t put my finger on one particular thing, but probably a cacophony of these discordant musing. The Beatles crossed my mind and their song “All You Need is love” and do you know I think this is where I am at. The final thought is that I am truly amazed by the universe namely its beauty, its exquisite design, order and complexity. All powered by love. So, me wearing a skirt is a convoluted tribute to the feminine principle that created this universe, and as a personal statement to be an epithet of love and compassion that has been lost to the world. Thus, giving me peace of mind and the freedom to just BE (a dude in skirt). And of course, just for the shear hell of enjoying the experience, because I can.
Thank you, John, for your comment. I really enjoyed reading your musing and so many good points in it!! Even though the article is written towards women, we all have feminine energy in us. And thank you for bring up, that skirts are also absolutely worn by men as well. Isn’t it interesting how culture and our upbringing influences our perception? I guess I was writing the article from my personal, subjective opinion, and for years I wasn’t wearing skirts or dresses, as I grow up quite standing in my masculine power, so connecting to the beauty of wearing a skirt or dresses helped me to step more into my feminine energy. But I guess even with that I am reciprocating social norms.
I will muse more on that point and appreciate you bringing this to my attention, something that definitely deserves more reflection.